We’re Building a House. No, Really.
ByHusband and I are going to build a house. If you know me, you’ve heard this one about 892 times. It’s because we have been “building a house” for more than 5 years now. Why is it taking so long? Well, if you are an LBB, you understand that Husband comes with ideas of his own.
All married couples will tell you that compromise is the soul of a happy marriage. But, what if your tastes are so well-defined that letting go just feels like, well, giving up a dream?
Let’s recap the house-building example.
It took us the first 3 years to find a piece of land we could agree on. Read: agree on the distance from downtown, cuz I get heart palpitations from being too far away from a good restaurant while he didn’t want to see any neighbors. We are now proud owners of 13.02 acres that are just heart-racing away from downtown and we can only see neighbors when the trees are bare in winter.
Then, we took another year to decide on house style. Early on, he squashed my idea of replicating Frank Lloyd Wright’s Falling Water, and I put my foot down on anything resembling Monticello. We finally agreed we both like European designs, so we decided on a French Provincial. But, I continue to be drawn to Architectural Digest’s Tuscan Villa layouts and Miami waterfront homes. He sighs every time we get the Williamsburg catalogue in the mail.
Where is the middle when your ends have been so well-visioned?
2 Comments
April 2nd, 2009 at 9:06 am
It’s that letting go thing that can be so uninspiring. I suppose the trick is to find both of your ends and tie them together to form a new beginning (thank god you put your foot down on the brick and columns – ain’t no sister of mine living in a library-looking villa!)
April 2nd, 2009 at 10:27 am
Yes! Just say “no” to libraries.