Adela, 46, is a Late Bloomer Bride, who is our first (of I hope many) LBBs to tell us like it is!
LBB: What was your age when you got married?
Adela: 43
LBB: What do you find the most surprising about marriage?
Adela: It has made me be much more deliberate, in both significant and insignificant ways, knowing I impact another’s existence (actually the existence of two people, my husband and my 6 year old step-daughter). And, that’s a good thing as I feel, if everyone put a little more thought into one’s words/actions and how they affect others, we would all experience less conflict and have more satisfactory relationships at work, home, etc.
LBB: What do you miss the most about single life?
Adela: Having the house to myself, being able to make all the (sometimes snap) decisions on my own, being able to do things (and I don’t mean socializing necessarily, it could be running, grocery shopping, dancing) spur-of-the-moment [things]. (Note: I am not complaining, though.)
LBB: Do you have any advice for the over 40 woman seeking love and marriage?
Adela: Know and be happy with yourself; be a good communicator; be kind, period (even when disagreeing); and most importantly, choose wisely — better to be alone (and happy at least most of the time) than to be with someone and be lonely/miserable all of the time.
And, pursue your hobbies! If you do that, you’ll benefit in several ways: 1) You’ll have fun doing something you truly enjoy instead of being home alone and bored or lonely; 2) You’ll make friends with others who share the same interest and then you can also do other things together like meet for dinner, go to the movies, a theater show, apple picking etc.; 3) Perhaps you’ll meet someone you think you’d like to date and you’ll get to be around this person to see what he/she is like before possibly dating. Basically, get involved and then you’ll meet people!
LBB: What is the one word you would use to describe marriage?
Adela: Team!
