Stepchildren – A Window into a Future Husband?

I am not an expert on children. I did not have children myself.

(I’d like to take a moment of gratitude for my two sisters who had two children each, satisfying the grandparents, and, therefore, leaving me at peace. Praise the Lord and Amen.)

Instead, I married a man who had children. Well, they aren’t kids exactly. They were both X-box playing, pizza-downing teenagers when I met Husband.

I got lucky. Really lucky with my two stepsons. They were, have always been, and continue to be, polite and nice to me. In fact, Father remarked the first time he met these then-teenage boys how much he admired their manners and adult-like engagement with the mostly-adult crowd.

And, it was kind of a bonus that Stepson Number Two and I share the same musical tastes. He’s given me some great mix CDs, much to the chagrin of Husband who does not appreciate Linkin Park the way I and his son do.

So, I add this to the list of things for LBBs to consider – how are his kids? Because, his children can tell you a lot about your spouse.

How they were raised (and what stuck) gives you a little peek into what’s important to Husband  and how they probably treat people.  I mean, children don’t raise themselves.  I know all about the “firm-ware” that comes with people – traits that they genetically inherit apparently. But, for the most part, we all know that the relationships between children and parents directly color their prowess in dealing with others. So, wouldn’t it make sense that the way children relate to others (namely – YOU) says a lot about how husband would relate to you?

P.S. I may regret not having children someday, but I wasn’t about to squeeze a baby into my 500 square foot condo back during my fertile days and do “all that” by.my.self. I held out for a man who wanted to have children with me – and who’d move me into larger space (still waiting). By the time I met Husband it was just.too.late. Ah, well. C’est la vie.

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