The Late Bloomer Bride: Judith, Marketing Director, 53 years old
Married for the first time at age 49 1/2
Judith first met her current husband about 20 years ago in a bar. She says he remembers meeting her, but she tells us that she definitely remembers. “I recall he was very tall (still is). But, we didn’t date. And, I am sure we wouldn’t have worked out back then. We were different people than we are now,” she says.
Judith says while she never lived with a man before getting married, she did have several long-time relationships. She adds, “I was either not ready or hadn’t met the right man. Or both. I had quite a few suitors over the years. But I didn’t want to get married unless I was certain he was the right one. When he came along, I just knew.”
Now happily married, she answers some questions for our readers, including some advice for the over 40 woman seeking love and marriage.
LBB: What do you find the most surprising about marriage?
Judith: I was surprised how easy it’s been. It reinforces that he’s the right one for me. We dated for two years before getting married, and now have been married for four years. And, in all that time, we haven’t had a single argument. We are just so compatible.
LBB: What do you miss the most about single life?
Judith: I miss being able to go home at night and just have bowl of cheerios for dinner. (Ed.: He cooks and cleans, however, so she told us she is not complaining.) I miss watching TV in the middle of the night. He helps me be a little more regimented in my schedule. Getting protein for dinner and getting enough sleep. He’s been good for me and my health. I also might miss getting dolled up and going out with the girls, a little bit. But its passing thought. I wouldn’t go back to those days for anything.
LBB: Do you have any advice for the over 40 woman seeking love and marriage?
Judith: This will sound clichéd, but don’t give up. Don’t settle. It’s much better to be alone than to be with someone in a bad relationship. The most alone you feel is when you’re with the wrong man. So, don’t compromise in choosing your mate. Marriage is give and take. But, wait for someone who is compatible with you. When I think of men I dated in my 20s and think about being married to them now, it’s laughable. I have changed so much.
What did your family say when you got married older?
Judith: They were so happy for me. One girlfriend kept saying I wouldn’t do it. But, I knew I would. How I wish my parents were still alive and could have met him. He is so much like my dad. He’s funny. I can be myself with him. We go to bed laughing and wake up laughing.
LBB: How did you know he was the one?
Judith: It was just the most natural evolution. I never thought that he wasn’t the one. And also when I saw how he treated his mom and his pets. That told me what I needed to know. How they treat animals and interact with their mom and family is important.
LBB: One word you would use to describe marriage?
Judith: Comforting.
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