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Question: I am in my mid 40s and find that men just don’t “see” me anymore. Any advice on what I can do to at least get some attention?
One Answer: Yes. First burn your perfect man list. But, we’ve already beaten that one into the ground here.
Secondly, use your secret weapon (that all women possess) more often. What? You didn’t know you had a secret weapon? Well, girl, let me tell you. It’s very simple. It’s your smile. Smile at every single man you meet (just not the scary ones, and by now you should know how to differentiate those from the normal guys). See what happens. Men are just as insecure as you are. So, give them some encouragement even if you aren’t interested in them (or they are married). A side benefit is that other men will see you are being friendly to men, in general. This counts.
Report back and let us know how it goes.
I agree so much about the smile. I have friends that are obsessed with looking perfect to attract men, but I think that most men will not bother to approach a woman just because she is attractive if she doesn’t give some sign that she is at least friendly. Plus, you feel better when you smile. It’s hard to hang onto whatever negative feelings you may be having when you’re making a point to flash your best smile.
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